SexIsFoundationalToMe
A truth of my life, (though perhaps not the lives of others,) is the root foundation of sex and sexuality.
A few words about what this means:
- “a truth” – by this, I mean, a thing that I have found to be recurring and regular in my life, on introspection
- “a truth of my life” – I am cautious about speaking for others, because people have very different patterns of living, and different ways of looking at things
- most people I know are male, and most of them put far less emphasis on sex than I do
- given a choice between multiple characters, I almost always choose the most overtly sexual female character
- “root foundation” – by this, I mean: a “root cause,” a “basic nature,” as well as, for me, an “implicit starting point for thought”
- by “root cause,” I mean that it is one of (and perhaps the most powerful) the great founding needs guiding our actions and desires
- I believe that, for this reason, sex is often associated with “creativity,” both constructive and destructive (male,) as well as “creative” suggesting crayons, constructio paper, & playfulness (weak, diminutive, childlike, female)
- by “a starting point for thought,” I mean that sex and sexual nature, forces itself unconsciously, in the design of a thing, or an expression, or a vocalization, …
- as an immediate example, these items here are presented in a hierarchical bullet-point fashion, which strongly suggests masculinity to me, and that observation throws itself to me (I am “sensitive” to it, in this way)
- by “implicit”, I mean that it’s often not thought about- it’s just there, assumed (by myself, and I project: by others,) and background
- “sex and sexuality” – by sex and sexuality, I am not referring here to the act of sex, (material,) but to sexual desire, and being a sexual being (imaginary)
- what it is to “desire a woman,” what it is to “be a man,” and so on
- this definitely includes the stories and fantasies (EroticStories?) of sex;
- this definitely includes the KalesAndKekales, and grows into other FantasyIdentity?
Some times, I think of myself as sensitive to the sex & sexuality in things, moreso than others. Shevek notes “the woman in the table” in TheDispossessed?. When he does so, he is evidencing a sensitivity. By a sensitivity, I mean an internal connecting together and bringing to attention. There is a “language” or “ontology” of sex and sexuality in people and objects and images and ideas, and it commands my attention. I spend a lot of time thinking about, reflecting on, contemplating, examining, “living & breathing” sex and sexuality.
It is rare that I find people to talk with about these ideas; I think that talking about these ideas invites ostracism / segregation via labelling as a “pervert,” because the subject is (perhaps rightfull: IsSexIntrinsiclyDestructive?) somewhat taboo (SexIsTaboo?.)
I would rather talk with women about sex, in a frame that could lead to actual sex, and without other men around, rather than talking about sex with men (perception of “being losers,” MaleHumiliation?.) It is easy for me to project this on to others, and I really don’t think it’s far off the mark for most people. (This may be help explain why WomenAreTheHoldersOfSex?; Simply that: No-one wants to listen to a man (competitor) talking about such. By MasculineIdentity?, Men have sex, they do not talk about it. see also: IfMenCouldTalk.)
“Then why this page?”
Simply: Sex is so critical and important to me, when I consider myself in full authenticity, and since I am committed to the life of authentic thought, sharing, and conversation, I absolutely have to bring this up, MaleHumiliation? and MasculineIdentity? be damned.
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